Arranged Marriages
Mankind has had better moments! Arranged Marriage has not by any means raised simple questions regarding marriage, society and life itself. Neither does it provide us with simple solutions to improve our nations. Instead, Divakaruni's "marriage accounts" has given us essential principles about the importance of marriage and how one can find happiness. Not for the sole purpose of learning about Indian history, but also for the intention of finding a balance between traditional beliefs and the new culture immigrants face in the United States. Arranged Marriage is defined as marriage between a man and a woman, arranged by the couple's parents and/or relatives based on traditions and strong family ties. It has been compared with Companionate Marriage in which the man and the woman freely choose to marry based on love and companionship. Divakaruni's "marriage accounts" show the effect traditional values have on families as they move to the United States where individual freedom is practiced. Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni raises four themes, which challenge the Indian tradition as families try to find their identity in a new culture. I couldn't stand it, the stares and whispers of the wo
The stories by Divakaruni does not tell us much about the purpose and practice of arranged marriages. In one word, she had been striped of her identity. How can someone understand real love when there is little love between a child and a parent? Is the love that America was portraying to these women only about feelings and emotions? You're starting to sound like an American . When it came down to telling the mother, many time the response would be "Who are you talking to, Ayah? What? How ca it be my daughter? I don't have a daughter. In any type of marriage, be it arranged and/or companionate the positive ties between husband and wife is essential, even when discord arises. Divakaruni is forcing us to stand up and understand that marriage is not as cut and clear as we would like to make it. I close my eyes and see the gray, gauze-like smoke drifting gently into the cavities inside me, taking over. We recognize this importance once we see the divorces and lives of the women that shifted to this new Companionate Marriage idea. The women that kept their integrity continued to succeed in their marriages denying their new culture to affect them. However the American culture should not have challenged their marital beliefs instead accept it. It acts as a source of strength in times of trouble. men, down in the marketplace; the loneliness of being without him. As much as they wanted to assimilate and utilize a new identity, they were still valuing their traditional standards. Indian marriages aren't based on such superficial things.
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