Until Whenever Do Us Part
Webster's Dictionary says that marriage is "the act of marrying, or the state of being married; legal union of a man and a woman for life, as husband and wife; wedlock; matrimony." It also says that divorce is "to dissolve the marriage contract of, either wholly or partially; to separate by divorce." Yet there's no way that either definition can even begin to describe the magnitude of either arrangement. They can't describe the commitment that a marriage entails. They can't describe the pain that divorce can cause. They can't show the level of compatibility that marriage requires. And they can't show the causes of divorce. But I'm hoping that this paper can. My goal in writing this is to show that marriage is taken too lightly and yet is something that society shoves down our throats as something we are required to do before death. I will attempt to show the causes of divorce and how we can avoid them by abstaining from marriage in the first place. It is my hope that despite the extremeness of my argument, I will be able to put marriage into perspective and show that the risk of divorce outweighs the benefits of marriage. According to the US Census Bureau, in 1998 2.2 million American coupl
There is no sure-fire-test or challenge that engaged couples could take beforehand to see if their marriage will last. You are looked on as if there is something wrong with you if you are not married by the time you are 25. If we start openly pursuing relationships that have no "eternity stamp" on them and pursue relationships that make us happy, whether for a fleeting moment to months, years, or decades, we might be able to talk to one another as people rather than potential mates. It is the "norm" to be divorced and it seems that most people accept and even expect divorce. So why make those excuses?I firmly believe that the reason people risk so much to get married is because of the pressure society puts on people to get married. That is no way to properly bring a child up. Or perhaps it's because of a "shotgun wedding" like in my friend Tim's case. If we stop putting so much pressure on young girls by saying they should plan for the one day when they get to wear a white dress and be wed to the man that will stay devoted to them for eternity and that they will live happily ever after, we might cure some of our relationship problems with one another. Also, 60% of all divorces occur in people between the ages of 25 to 39. If you are getting divorced you've got uncountable people that it affects. And when they've entered it and experienced it, they find that it's not for them or much more commonly they blame it on the person that they were married to. Some couples try "working" on the relationship, but shouldn't we consider before making such a commitment that maybe there is no level of "work" that can be done to make a monogamous relationship work? How can we invest so much of our own happiness on the idea of someone else's ability to "work" on the relationship as well? My solution is that we seriously give thought as a society to not getting married. They are too young to understand that it takes more than just feeling good about someone to spend the rest of your life with them.
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