Friendship according to Aristotle
According to Aristotle, there are three types of friendships. (1) Those that are based on pleasure , (2) those that are based purely on self interest or utility and (3), those with a special bond between equals who are drawn to each other and receive pleasure and mutual benefits from the relationship and bring out the goodness or highest values in each other.
The first two types of friendships are pleasant and helpful to one, but at the center of the relationship are individuals who are guided by self interest, physical or self gratification, material advantages or improved social status, or some other Unitarian reasons. These are the types of friendships that often become one-sided even though they may at first bring mutual pleasure or advantages and ultimately will not last because they are superficial. The last type, in which the friendship is based on mutual respect and a brotherhood of equals, where mutually respected core values are nurtured by the relationship, is the true type of friendship which we should strive for and is long lasting.
The first type of friendship is based on utility. According to Aristotle, these friendships are common in old people because they need ass
As Aristotle describes, "This sort of friendship seems to arise especially among older people, since at that age they pursue the advantageous, not the pleasant"" (1156a-24-26) In relationships which are based on utility, friends do not love each other so much as they love the advantages that come out of the friendship. " This is the ideal type of friendship because the reason the two people are attracted to each other is based on shared values and goodness. Being a true friend, in essence is a virtue. Only a good person will be a true friend that will always be there through thick or thin. If either one of the parties changes or tires of the relationship, the friend may not seem as useful or as much fun. Without similar morals, it would be impossible to maintain a true life long friendship if the other persons morals would offensive to you or would conflict with your own moral compass. With two persons of different morals, it is possible to be initially attracted to each other to enjoy each other"tms company and even benefit from the relationship (although it"tms often tends to be one-sided). Once this happens, it can only lead to unhappiness or inequality in the relationship as the friendship dissolves and ultimately ends, sometimes painfully for one of the parties. Having different moral codes would make it difficult to have such a friendship. It is only natural to want to be able to share your life and experiences with another. In these relationships goodness is equal and results in a friendship not based primarily on utility or pleasure, although the relationship can bring both. True and long lasting friendship is based on love, trust and mutual respect. But as they grow up what they find pleasant changes too. Do men love, then, the good or what is good for them These sometimes clash. With this strong type of friendship, you are able to gain pleasure from the other, as well as help and utility but the friendship does not stop there, since it is rooted in a long lasting virtue, "And so friends whose love accords with the worth of their friends are enduring friends and have an enduring friendship.