toxic parents
My report is on the book Toxic Parents by Dr. Susan Forward. I found this book very intrusting and scary in the same breath. I could not understand some of the hurt and pain parents inflict on their children. I do come from a home that was destroyed by divorce, alcohol and drug use. I can relate to some of the stories and it brought up my own struggles and made me question my own parents. I don't know what normal parents are but this book made it clear what is not healthy for children and even adults to deal with from there parents. I don't know where to go with this but I guess I will start off my opinions with the content of the book. I was really shocked by reading other peoples struggles with there family's and was not fully aware of how much toxic *censored* fills our lives. The one that I found bizarre, but true, is the direct control thing, through guilt. The story I am speaking about was the grown man from California, who was going to go to Boston to be with his folks for their wedding anniversary. His wife got sick and he tried to cancel his mother said she would die. He compromised and showed up for one day. His mother was devastated when he left early; she carried on like it was the end of the world. Its like t
He was having a tremendous amount of problems sexually. Things got really bad and so did my behavior, alcohol and drugs were tried and not overly enjoyed on my part. We live in a strange world and it kills me to think something as beautiful as sexuality can be used as weapon of destruction. My mother would fight with him the minute he walked in the door but nothing seemed to get resolved. My father was an addict from pot, cocaine, to alcohol. I am glad to have gain the insight that I did and will recommend this book to my entire family. To understand this relationship would help correct that kind of negative behavior. My dad started staying away from his family for weeks on end and his disappearing acts became a more and more common assurance. I am lucky, in a sense my father is recovering and has been somewhat clean for 7 years. As their kids we were not allowed to talk about his problems or question his behavior. As we (bother and sister) got older and recognized the signs our self's problems became overwhelming. I wish there was a button that could erase these memories for people so the could never battle those feelings and thoughts again. I n this book it was made clear that therapy was essential for working through these problems and I definitely agree with that. I have struggled in all my intimate relationships since then and have a hard time giving my true feelings up. I avoided confrontation with my folks and never won any arguments.
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