During the 1990s there had been a surge for popular psychology books about gender, language and communication. Among some of the bestsellers included Deborah Tannen's You Just Don't Understand and John Gray's Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
             These authors have reached millions of people with their metaphors, describing how men and women communicate differently. Instead of trying to force men and women into molds that do not fit them, Gray and Tannen's experiential relationship styles embraces the differences between men and women, and encourages communication through the understanding of basic differences. They make many arguments about how men and women act and what they want to hear in conversation. These examples help the reader grasp the author's ideas and arguments and make the book more interesting and easier to relate to.
             As a popular marriage counselor, John Gray provides a unique and practical way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them. He attracts the readers by telling an ongoing story that helps the audience to relate. Once upon a time Martians (men) and Venusians (women) met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets. Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibits mutually fulfilling loving relationships. The statement that "men are from Mars and women are from Venus" gives a clear image of the extremely different worlds of thinking and acting between the men and the women. That has been true since the creation of the human being, starting with Eva, Adam, their apple and their contradictions.
             Tannen's style is a bit different yet she tends to give examples...