“Dying Of Embarrassment”: A Reflection

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Public speaking, test taking, eating in a restaurant, writing in public, and dating: What do all of these have in common? They are all situations in which social fears occur. The book, Dying of Embarrassment by Barbara G. Markway, Cheryl N. Carmin, C. Alec Pollard, and Teresa Flynn details a proven program for overcoming social phobia and social anxiety. This self-help book provides the reader with questionnaires, coping skills, powerful cognitive behavioral techniques, real-life examples, and most importantly it provides clear guidelines to help someone decide whether or not they need to seek professional assistance. All of these mechanisms are designed to help someone conquer their social fears by themselves and in return make him/her a stronger person. In order to decide whether or not you have a social phobia the term social phobia must be defined. As stated by the book, "it is a disorder characterized by a persistent fear of criticism or rejection by others" (3). Individuals with this disorder fear that they will behave in a way that will result in humiliation. My personal experience with social phobia is just that. Everyone is afraid in some point in time that he/she will fail to do something right, resulting in an Continue...


However, there are several components that may contribute to social phobias and they are biological, environmental, cognitive, and maladaptive coping. However, there are some behavioral and cognitive symptoms that may not be. People with social phobias must realize must realize that social phobias are relatively new disorders that haven't been explored in extensive detail yet. Millions of Americans suffer from social phobia and don't even realize it. This leads to a very interesting part and it is maladaptive coping. Take the most obvious for example, negative experiences; everyone has them at some point in their lives. Everyone should be quite aware of the bodily changes that occur during an embarrassing or humiliating moment. After doing some of these someone should be able to overcome social fears however, if these fail one must seek professional help. "The three major ideas of how biology can affect social phobias are biochemical irregularities, genetic predispositions, and the evolution of biologically based sensitivities disapproval (17). This could create thoughts of disapproval because others may laugh. In other words, what do you want to accomplish The authors note that there is something very important and it is that "a useful goal must be specific (33). Some of the most used drugs are Beta-blockers, Monoamine Oxidase Inhibitors (MAOI), Benzodiazephines, Tricyclic Antidepressants (TCA), and Azaspirones. It all relates to what a person thinks how other will interpret himher. Since it was only first appeared in 1980, researchers have not been able to conduct in depth research (13). I know that my experience with this and my friends that I know that when alcohol is consumed, a whole new side emerges.