Women's opinions on why her husband doesnt listen to her

Tannen is a contradicting one, I agree with her when she says that communication is very important in a relationship but I don’t agree in the big deal she made over whether her husband was listening to her or not. Tannen’s opinion on when men or women feel their partners is not paying attention is she believes they’re right, I again don’t believe that I think that’s just a matter or one person assuming and assuming is not a go communication skill, I think if one of the partners feels that the other is not paying attention then they should let their partner know about tit not just jump to conclusions and lead their partner to believe they’re mad over other things. She carries over the fact that her silent father is the reasons why she wants her husband to be so expressive and she implies that they’re the same thing a silent father, she uses the fact that her husband being so silent means he wasn’t listening and she says its almost as if she’s banging her head against a brick wall, which in my opinion is a negative assumption. I don’t think that way of women I think all women are different and have their own ways of thinking and ways of reacting to situations like that. I think to keep a healthy relationship a positive attitude must be used at all times because it’s a sign of trust that your partner does everything in only good intensions for you. The positive attitude keeps everything happy and having good times, because when the trust is broken and the negative thinking begins is when most relationships go down hill and break down.

Tannen states that when women recalls a situation by using tone of voice and using exact wording and describing the situation, then she says men just summarize it, well I for one have a great memory when it comes to remembering a situation that bothered me so I don’t summarize it I get into great detail. ment and I don’t think all men are that way and I know for a fact that I’m not that way.

My true opinion on this reading by Dr. Then at the end of the writing she says if you get a negative assumption of your partner it might not be the intending one and I agree with her. She says “In a long term relationship a woman often feels after all this time you should know what I want with out my telling you” that’s such a big way to start a fight why cant the woman just say what she wants why must she play these games and assume the man should know, then when he has no idea what she wants the woman gets mad and begins an argument all because she couldn’t just say what she wanted and now they’re both mad at each other. I think that statement by her was a bias one and pretty ignorant. This way they’re on the same page and avoid the arguments which lead to bigger things because all those arguments seem to always add up and get to people and lead to a separation. Woman tend to cry and demand attention all the time and at times I think they exaggerate but in this case of a man asking how her day was , I do have to agree with Tannen there. It’s not perfection its expression should be the motto all relations should go by, because no one needs to be perfect because no one is perfect but I believe everyone must express themselves and express how they feel about everything.