Interpersonal communications involves individuals; it involves more than just social roles. Rather, each person should be treated unlike any other person. There is a qualitive distinction when we question relationships. We can notion that we can improve communication competence. In our daily basis we come to function with three types of relationships, I-It communication, I-You communication, and I-thou communication. In each of these we experience a different type of relationship. In an I-It and I-you relationship we are seeming, we are preoccupied in our image and put on a mask. In an I-Thou relationship we allow the relationship to be fully human, we reveal who we are and take of the mask.
Frequently, we view both objects and people by their functions. For example I work as a waitress, to many people my function as a person doesn’t exist. They came to get food, they eat it and leave, and I was just an object to them who served them. In I-it communication people treat others impersonally as objects. Many times salespeople, waitresses’ even students are just a number and not acknowledged. In this type of relationship we do not get very much interaction, and we are seen as objects to one another.
Unfortunately, we frequently view people in the same way. Rather than truly making ourselves completely available to them, understanding them, we observe them or keep part of ourselves outside the moment of relationship. In I-you relationships our interaction is midway between impersonal and interpersonal. I know when I went to a new job it was really hard for me to adjust to all the new rules and staff. At that point I was still hidden under that mask because I felt uncomfortable working in the environment for a while and I feel that I may have been impersonal. Hence, I feel that it’s a process that we go through and when we have a chance to get closer we than can develop I-thou relationsh