According to www.divorcereform.org (September 16, 2002), in the United States "about 50% of first marriages for men under age 45 may end in divorce, and between 44 and 52% of women's first marriages may end in divorce for these age groups.” With nearly 50% of all marriages ending in failure, this may also involve children and custody issues. Although the parents/divorcees, or in some cases the children, can choose with whom they reside, a judge has the final decision in this matter by deciding if that situation would be suitable for the children’s well being. This system of judgment is fair, and is suitable for these scenarios.
As a child, my parents were divorced when I was five years old. Instead of my parents giving their five-year-old child the chance to decide with whom they wanted to live, they decided, with support from the judge, that it would be best for my sister and I to reside with my homemaker mother. Fortunate
Since my mother was not forced to get a job, she was able to stay home with her two young children, but if I had lived with my father he would have been at work each day. In the end it is up to the parents to make a home for their child, it is the judge"tms job to ensure that home would be the best place for the child. These payments from his hard work supported us. ly for my family, my father made an adequate income and was able to make both child support and alimony payments to my mother each month. " A judge can base hisher decision on the Bill of Rights for Children, and make the decision to remove the child from that situation before they put themselves into it. Although this is coming from situations I have personally been introduced to, it seems apparent to me that this happens frequently to children, since the New Jersey courts have devised the New Jersey Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (NJ-AFCC) Bill of Rights for Children in Divorce and Dissolution Actions. The first right listed is that children have "the right to be treated as important and separate human beings with unique feelings, needs, ideas, and desires, not existing solely to gratify the needs of their parents," and the sixth right is stated that children have "the right to know that expressions of love between children and parents will not cause fear, disapproval, or negative consequences (http:www. However, if they had given me the decision I may have chosen my father and this would have not given me the best situation of the two. Heshe can examine the financial aspects of the situation and determine if this is would be the best scenario, of the two parents, to raise a child. A judge can examine this and take some pressure off of the child as well, since the child may feel the pressure to choose whom "they love more. "For the most part, any judge will go along with whatever decision" made between the two spouses (www.