"Our patients often have the problems of frigidity and impotence, but the strange and poignant thing we observe is how desperately they struggle not to let anyone find out they don't feel sexually. The Victorian nice man or woman was guilty if he or she did experience sex; now we are guilty if we don't." (May, 1969, P.40) May describes as sex having become something mechanized and depersonalized, he feels that there is no joy or caring in sex anymore. He states there are many motives for these depersonalized confused and uncaring sexual preoccupations. First motive is that lovers feel the need to be identical to their partners and disregard the biological and emotional differences between males and females. This disregard results in the loss of personal identity and uniqueness. Second motive is a person's need to feel that they are not alone, the feeling of solitariness. They try to fill a sort of emptiness, "a longing in the other to prove their own feeli
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