Can you forgive your mother if she fled away to find her own happiness , leaving you behind? This was the reason that provoked conflict between An-mei and her mother, in the ¡°Scar,¡± written by Amy Tan. In the novel, narrowing the gap between the mother and her daughter An-mei almost seems to be impossible, because it is so profound.
             An-mei hardly remembers her mother. Her mother exists in her memory as a ¡°ghost,¡± not meaning a dead person, but meaning a subject that is forbidden to talk about- in China. ¡°When I was a girl in China, my grandmother told me my mother was a ghost. This did not mean my mother was dead. In those days, a ghost was anything we were forbidden to talk about. So I knew Popo wanted me to forget my mother on purpose, and this is how I came to remember nothing of her.¡± (p 33) She is told that her mother has run away to be a married-man¡¯s concubine, and An-mei¡¯s disappointment toward her mother grows. When the mother comes back, An-mei realizes who she is, but does not say a word to her to show antipathy.
             However, An-mei becomes to love her mother after she experiences an incident that her mother shows respect and love to Popo, who is both the grandmother of An-mei, and the mother¡¯s mother. ¡°Here is how I came to love my mother. How I saw in her my own true nature. What was beneath my skin. Inside my bones. It was late at night when I went to Popo¡¯s room. I saw my mother on the other side of the room. She was cooking soup. And then I saw her pull up her sleeve and pull out a sharp knife. And then my mother cut a piece of meat from her arm. My mother took her flesh and put it in the soup.¡± (p 40~41) An-mei saw a way that a daughter honors her mother, and she describes it as shou, a Chinese meaning ¡®respect.
             In the novel, the conflict works as a method that acknowledges An-mei of love between a daughter and her mother. If she grew up in a norma
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