It is ironic how you and I often hurt the people we love most in arguments. You need to realize that too often the people closest to us are the ones that receive the majority of our anger, because they are around you when you're most likely to let yourself really let your true emotions show. When people cut you off in traffic or are rude, or when your boss is unreasonable in making demands, often times the stress and anger of these situations finds new life in old arguments. All this anger however can make for some great ephinanies in your arguments with others, and actually strengthen relationships through off-loading frustrations that originated with others yet get dumped on the people you care for most.
             Think of it as verbal dog kicking if you will; therapeutic and cathartic for you, and sometimes irritating but many time maddening for those around you.
             So how do you quit kicking the verbal dog around the block when you get home from a bad day or worse yet, just unloading your frustrations whenever they reach a point where you've reached saturation limit? You can beat the verbal dog kicking habit, getting the argumentative monkey of your back so to speak, by taking these steps:
             1.Ask yourself "Would I like to argue about this right now if I was (insert significant other here)"? This is critical for you to start an argument by first crawling inside the skin of the person you are about to initiate an argument with. Nothing starts an argument better than launching an attack from a point of empathy. Be sure to get immersed in that person's point of view through empathy to make sure the verbal sparring is on target!
             2.You can create more effective arguments by stressing how you can readily see the other person's perspective and how flawed it is. Now this is where you really get to kick the dog verbally up one side of the street and down the other. By asserting empathy and superiority in...