Parent-Child Bonding in Early Childhood
In each person's life much of the joy and sorrow revolves around attachments or
affectionate relationships -- making them, breaking them, preparing for them, and
adjusting to their loss by any means. Yet of all these bonds, nothing compares to that
formed between a mother or father and his or her newborn infant. Bonding does not refer
to mutual affection between a baby and an adult, but to the phenomenon whereby adults
become committed by a one-way flow of concern and affection to children for whom they
have cared during the first months and years of life. According to J. Robertson in his
book, A Baby in the Family Loving and Being Loved, individuals may have several
hundred acquaintances in there lifetimes, but at any given moment there are only a limited
number of persons to whom they are closely attached. He explains that much of the
richness and beauty of life is derived from these close relationships which each person has
with a small number of individuals -- mother, father, brother, sister, husband, wife, son,
daughter, and a small cadre of close friends (Robertson 1).
Attachment is crucial to the survival and development of the infant. Many
researchers suggest that parents' bond to their child may be the strongest of all human ties.
This relationship has two distinct segments. The first signs of bonding occur while the
baby develops within the mother's womb. After birth, his survival is utterly dependent on
her until he becomes a separate individual. According to Mercer, the power of this
attachment is so great that it enables parents to make the necessary sacrifices for the care
of their infant. Day after day, night after night; changing diapers, attending to cries,
protecting the child from danger, and feeding him or her in the middle of the night despite
their desperate need to sleep (Mercer 22). It is important to note that thi...