"The oldest sister of brothers is usually a strong, independent woman. She is down to earth and sensible, with a healthy ego, though she may at times appear self-effacing" (Richarson 40). First borns tend to be conscientious, well organized, serious, goal oriented, achieving, people pleasers, and believers in authority. Many first borns fit the description of "strong willed and aggressive." But there are plenty of first borns who are compliant. A compliant first born is someone who wants to please. Compliant first borns still have all those first-born qualities, but they're always in a very reliable and conscientious. In this paper I will be illustrating a compliant first born female, characteristics of a first born child, dealing with the birth of another child, and an oldest as a spouse, parent, friend and at work.
             Compliant first borns tend to be good students and good workers because they started out with a very strong need for Mom and Dad's approval. Then, of course, they need the approval of other authority figures, such as: teachers, coaches, and bosses. I see myself as a please, a nurtures, and a caregiver, all classic characteristics of the compliant first born. "The downside of being a compliant first born is that you can attract the great white sharks of life" (Leman 81). "Compliant first borns are well known for taking it and being walked on by a world that loves to take advantage of them. They are also known for nursing their resentments quietly, and then venting with one grand explosion" (Leman 82).
             Oldest children serve as "guinea pigs" for parents who have never done this kind of thing before. "Brand new parents are typically a bundle of ambivalence, one side overprotective, anxious, tentative, and inconsistent; the other side strict, disciplined, demanding, always pushing, and encouraging better performances" (Leman 87)....