In reading Swept Awake! Negotiating Passion On Campus it reminded me of a TV show I saw on MTV once. It showed a young male and female on a couch kissing. The male asked it he could put his hand on her waist and the girl did the same. This is exactly what they are talking about in this essay. Getting permission to touch your partner beforehand. I don't necessarily agree with this. I think that if both parties are willing you should have to ask permission every step of the way. I think it would be silly to ask my boyfriend, "May I have permission to kiss you on the cheek." Now I know that it may be different with us, we are in a long-term monogamous relationship. But I think the whole idea would be ridiculous even if you were only together for a couple of months. I also think that you should talk about getting physical BEFORE it even happens not during. I know I wouldn't get "swept away" by passion and not think of the consequences, but maybe that's just me.
             I do however see their point when people are intoxicated. They tend to not think as clearly as they would otherwise. It would help young girls in that situation who are scared and not thinking straight to define rape, in their own minds. Of course we all know no means no and if at any point in time a girl says no and the guy (or vise versa) continues that's rape. Some girls would think well I let him go so far then I said no so it my fault. It would help in cases like that. As far as I'm concerned in my own personal life I wouldn't ask permission at every step, it should be a given if you and your partner communicate before hand on how far is too far.
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