Each poem, story, and flashback only allows a mind to continue to absorb if it is in a state for learning. Does one have to understand, or at least start on the process of recognizing? These are aspects of different levels of learning. I am always celebrating the lessons of living and loving.
             Each lesson is broken down into micro questions that we ask each day. This may not be something easily realized or accepted. Each of the questions I ask myself I make a point to remember and incorporate in my daily life going forward. Going through life, the challenge is the days wanting more, dreaming of the best, and not knowing how to achieve my dreams. I have dreams. I will not let anyone make me have a feeling of restraint, due to the lack of his or her own goals. Iyanla and I feel this frustration. I now understand from Iyanla's words, which I was not confident of before, that my heart must be attended to before I can give to someone or something else, including work and relationships. Each day I face adversity, 10% are new situations, and 90% of the same lifetime is actually choosing how to cope.
             Coping has not been easy, first step Iyanla helped me learn was that the first person that I must rely on is myself. Next, always learn from my surroundings. This is usually with more examples of what not to do, than positive to do's. I am, left up to myself to fill in the other half. I follow my heart; I listen to the soft whispers within. With that only being the ignition, I also found my fire. Which my fire is my leader and my mentor. Similar to Iyanla I found my beginning to the rest of my life, through God. Each day with a new adversity I find him soothing like a soft wave over my heart. Now I am not alone. Part one of my dreams is now my reality.
             A reality is only my reality as long as I appreciate the truth and realness of it. God inspired, Iyanla said it, I absorbed it because "Where we are" there is a rea...