The popular notion of an apology is that it's supposed to make you feel better, whether by presenting a facade of forgiveness, or by laying down the facts of a situation. Maybe it is supposed to make a situation better, or possibly it's meant to lessen the tension between two people so that an upset will be easily forgotten. It's hard to decide which side of an apology is worse to be on; the apologetic, or receptive side. Right away, most people decide that receiving an apology is much easier than giving one, however, for some, it is just as easy to say sorry as it is to say thank you. On one side of an argument, you may be the one who messed up; either knowingly or accidentally, and apologizing would mean losing face. On the other side, as much as you want to forgive the person, you may be pissed off and unwilling to yield to forgiveness. As hard as it is to work up the courage to give a meaningful apology, it's ten times harder to forgive the person. You have to think and decide whether the person is really sorry or not. Then you have to understand whole heartedly what the person did to betray you, and whether or not it is worth accepting an apology. Then there are just those occasions where no matter how many times a person can apologize, it just won't matter. I get to the point where an apology, or offer of truce, won't matter because my mind is set in the position where I can only admit that I am right.
             You probably hear most people say that an apology makes a difference, which is sometimes true. At other times you know that you're getting blown off by some bullshit that is supposed to be what you want to hear. I'm not sure if everyone can distinguish the difference of someone truly meaning what they say, or if they can establish a pretense that has been practiced twenty times. I know I can. It's a trait that sticks with me like flies on cow shit! I can see right through people's fake pers
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