t discuss cruel and gory matters. We hide in closets things which others did or do in public' Buaman (1992). And as result of this lack of exposure to death, there is now a lack of common social educt in the face of death. The replacement of religious faith to scientific faith, has failed in substituting the social morals and guidelines that had surround death. This has left the society of high modernity with out a language to speak to the dying 'hence the embarrassment, the trained emotion of shame, that makes us numb when we meet death face to face Bauman (1992). Our 'language of survival', Bauman (1992) explains, makes remarks to those dying seem meaningless as death is 'an end to all purpose and planning.' High modernity, no longer can place any meaning to the event of death and avoids it as death is an exit, not a cross over into the next life. Thus death in high modernity is the opposite of life the 'other' something that is not talked about and ignored.
             As medicine has replaced religion in death, there is a new obsession with survival, as death now means the caseation of life. High modernity is aware in realising thus far death can not be controlled, therefore death is made the 'other' by replacing the uncontrollable aspect with the controllable: causes of death. Aries (1991) noted that the reason why death in now perceived as terrifying is due to the new awareness of self. The heightened individuality makes death a private event that is controllable by lifestyle, it is now ones fault if they partake in risk taking behaviour, death is 'perilously close to be declared a personal guilt' Bauman (1992). If 'death is a lost business' Aries (1991), by rationally seeking the causes and avoiding or finding cures for them, high modernity can ignore death as being the not the cause of death, 'we do not here people dying of mortality. They die only of indi...