One of my closest friend¡¯s sister called Anne hosted a dinner at her house because it was her birthday. Anne was all excited and told her friends that it was going to be a fun night. Her boyfriend, Taylor, helped her out early on the day with her groceries and some house chores. He was a sweetheart. The night was going smoothly but unexpectedly, Anne¡¯s out of down ex-boyfriend surprised her with a visit as he is was in town for his brother¡¯s wedding. Anne was shocked but greeted him and invited him inside. During the night, they were asking about themselves and asking how they¡¯ve been. Their conversation was running smoothly until he asked her to accompany him to the wedding as his date; sure enough, without giving the situation much thought, she accepts and decides. Taylor is left in the dark because she hadn¡¯t mentioned him for a while and all of a sudden, she¡¯s going to a wedding with him and he greatly fears that he might lose Anne to her ex-boyfriend. He thought for a whole and concluded that he forbade her to attend the wedding with him. Taylor was obviously very jealous and displayed signs of jealousy and possessiveness during. His fear of losing Anne is essentially a failure to him because he deeply cared about his girlfriend and losing her might mean losing the world to him
             In this case, emotions are being thrown back and forth at each other between the couple and each learns a little something more about each other. For example we learn about how deep Taylor¡¯s fear is of losing Anne. According to psychologists, ¡°people vary in their motivation to avoid failure and to achieve success, the motive to avoid failure can stimulate achievement¡± (Weiten, 2000, p. 293). In the given example between Anne and Taylor, he forbids her to attend the wedding with her ex-boyfriend because he fears that something so romantic, such as a wedding, may spark something between the two again and is afraid of losi...